When you spend months and years together with a particular girl, it can be very difficult to suddenly be without her. It can be especially difficult if she was unfaithful or was just leading you on. We've all been there, and it's never a fun experience. If you've been hit with a tough breakup, it's important to get back on track and put your life back together. Here are a few ways to tell whether or not you're completely over your ex.
1. You Don't Have Any Urge To Contact Her
If you still have feelings for an ex, you may have the urge to express them to her. Because modern technology provides so many ways to contact your ex (call, text, email, instant message, Facebook, Myspace), it can be tough to resist reaching out to her. When a relationship is over for good, sometimes it's best to break off all ties with your ex. With a relationship in your history, it can be very difficult to start a normal friendship with your ex, especially when you still have lingering feelings for her.
2. Question Why You Even Dated Her
One of the best ways to tell you're finally over an ex is if you start to question why you even dated her in the first place. When you're in love with a girl, it can be easy to overlook her flaws. She might have had some annoying quirks that you simply ignored because she was your girlfriend. After breaking up with your ex, you'll slowly begin to see her as she really is.
3. Start Noticing Other Girls
When you're still fresh from a tough breakup, it can be hard to want any other girl than your ex. Fortunately, after enough time passes you'll start noticing other girls again. This is an important turning point after a relationship because you're looking for other girls to date instead of trying to get back together with your ex. You're acknowledging that other girls can make you just as happy as your ex did. Getting to this point tells that you're finally ready to move on to new things.
4. Thinking About Her Doesn't Affect Your Mood
When you're not completely over an ex, thinking about her can make you feel all sorts of different emotions. Sometimes they're good, sometimes they're bad. Either way, if you've been apart from your ex for a long time, they should have less of a hold on you. The more an ex affects the way you behave today the less control you have over your own life. This is a problem for obvious reasons. If you're not in control of your life and are still haunted by the thought of your ex, it will be very difficult to move on and start dating other girls.
If you still think about your ex frequently and can't quite get her out of your mind, start doing things that will keep you busy. You can work out, volunteer, take classes, or work a part time job. Whatever you can do to keep yourself busy is the most important thing. When you're too busy to think about your ex, you'll have a much easier time forgetting her.
5. You Stop Wondering What She's Up To (Or Who She's Dating)Learn More About Relationships »
When you're still not over your ex and don't see her very often, you may wonder what she's up to or who she's dating. This is a perfectly natural thing to wonder about after a recent breakup. If you still have feelings for your ex, you'll definitely feel hurt if you see her with another man (especially if she seems happier). This is why it's necessary to stop wondering or caring what your ex is up to before you can be completely over her. If you can see her in the arms of another man without being phased, you're on the right track.