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How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone In 3 Steps

Written By Matt S.
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Tags flirting, dating, friend zone,

Getting out of the friend zone is never an easy task, but that doesn't mean it's impossible. There are many things you can do to help yourself get out of the friend zone and get a second chance with a girl. But it's important to remember that getting out of the friend zone is no walk in the park. It takes time, emotional toughness, and a bit of groundwork, but if you play your cards right you can end up winning in the end.

Step 1: Graciously Accept Your Status As A Friend
The first thing to do once you find yourself in the friend zone, is to graciously accept your status as a friend. This is such an important thing to do when you're put in the friend zone. The reason why you should graciously accept your status as a friend is because responding by acting hostile or depressed will only work against you. If you take rejection from a girl personally, you're basically telling her you do believe you're not good enough for her, which conveys a total lack of confidence. Any girl can tell you that low confidence is very unattractive.

You also have to remember that there are many reasons why a girl puts you in the friend zone that have nothing to do with you. She might be recovering from another relationship, she might have commitment issues, or she might be too busy with her life to date anyone. So you really shouldn't take being put in the friend zone personally. The problem is that many guys take rejection very personally and end up breaking off all contact with the girl. This is the wrong thing to do for several reasons.

  • You'll never have another chance with the girl
  • Getting upset and breaking off all ties will make you look childish and insecure
  • It gives her the power to control your emotions

So instead of bristling up and acting upset when you're put in the friend zone, try as hard as possible to be okay with being just a friend. It's the only way you'll ever get out of the friend zone, and believe it or not, being in the friend zone can actually be a good thing for you. After graciously accepting your status as a friend, the next step is to level the playing field.

Step 2: Level The Playing Field
The next step to getting out of the friend zone is to level the playing field. When a girl puts you in the friend zone, she passes you up and keeps her eyes open for other guys. If you stay around and keep pursuing her, you'll come off as needy, pathetic, and maybe even creepy. So if she's looking for other people to date, in order to level the playing field, you should be looking for other people to date too. By leveling the playing field, you show her several important things that will help you get out of the friend zone:

  • You aren't easily affected by rejection
  • She's not that important to you
  • Other girls will happily date you

The importance of not being easily affected by rejection was explained in the previous step. By showing her she's not that important to you, it'll help further level the playing field. It shows her you don't believe she's too good for you. By showing her that other girls will happily date you, she'll naturally be more interested in you (people simply want what they can't have). All of these things will send her a strong message that will make her rethink her decision to pass you up and put you in the friend zone. Once you have leveled the playing field with her, the next step is to go for the kill.

Step 3: Go For The Kill
The last step to getting out of the friend zone is to go for the kill. You've established with the girl that you won't get hostile or upset if rejected and that you have other dating options. You should start flirting with her more and eventually let her know you'd be interested in the possibility of dating her. Again, she will choose whether or not to put you in the friend zone again, but this time, you will have the odds stacked in your favor.

If she puts you in the friend zone again, don't sweat it. You'll have other dating prospects and can move onto the next girl without missing a beat.

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