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Is She Just Leading You On?

Written By Soo L.
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Tags flirting, dating, lead on,

Have you ever been led on by a girl before? If you have, chances are it wasn't a fun experience. Being led on by a girl can leave you feeling used, rejected, and even heartbroken. It's important to be able to recognize when you're being led on to save yourself from being hurt and humiliated. Now, before going any further, it is important to note that only a small percentage of girls intentionally lead guys on. There are still plenty of good girls out there who play by the rules and wouldn't even dream of leading you on.

The Reasons Why Girls Lead Guys On
It is important to first learn the reasons why girls lead guys on before trying to figure out if you're being led on. Here are the biggest reasons why girls lead guys on.

Power When a girl leads a guy on, she is in complete control the entire time. There is no uncertainty and she can take things further or end things whenever she pleases. This is usually because the guy she is leading on is so infatuated with her that she can do whatever she wants.

Attention The second reason why girls lead guys on is for the attention. When a girl leads a guy on, she usually gets all sorts of attention from the guy. This can be fun for her and can give her a little ego boost. The only problem is that her ego boost is given at the expense of someone else's feelings.

Free Stuff The third and final reason why girls lead guys on is for the free gifts/dates. When a guy gets into a situation where he is being led on, he might find it necessary to take the girl on fancy dates and buy her gifts. This likely won't do anything to impress her but she'll take what she can get. It's free after all.

How To Tell If She's Leading You On
Sometimes it can be a bit difficult to tell if you're being led on by a girl. Here are some questions to ask yourself if you aren't sure.

Is She Unresponsive? Is she unresponsive when you call or text her? If she is unresponsive, it is possible that she isn't interested in you and is just leading you on. There is a chance she's just too busy, but if she really was interested in you, she'd be quicker to return your phone calls and texts.

Is She On A Pedestal? If you consider her better than you and put her on a pedestal, you're practically asking her to lead you on. When a girl is put on a pedestal, she will feel entitled to treat you like you're below her. Putting her on a pedestal will hurt your chances of winning her over, and increase your chances of being led on. If you agree with everything she says, change yourself to match what she likes, and buy her things without her deserving it, you're putting her on a pedestal and setting yourself up for disaster.

Is She Known For Being A Flirt? If the girl in question is just a naturally flirty person, she might be leading you on without even meaning to. There are plenty of girls out there with very outgoing personalities that can easily give guys the wrong impression. If the girl is the type to flirt with everyone, you'll have to try extra hard to find out if she's really interested in you.

Do Your Friends Think She's Leading You On? Sometimes the best way you can find out if you're being led on is to ask your friends. If they tell you that you're being led on, you might want to think about pursuing someone else. It can be hard sometimes to accept this fact, especially when you're really into a girl.

What To Do If You're Being Lead On
If you're absolutely sure you're being led on, there are certain things you should do to put an end to it.

Limit Contact With Her Don't burn your bridges with her altogether, but do limit how often you contact her. If she tries contacting you, take your time to respond and don't seem so eager to hear from her. She'll soon get that you're not going to be taken advantage of any more.

Don't Fall For Her Tricks When you start drifting away from her, she might feel defeated and will try to make herself more attractive to you. Make sure you don't fall for this because you'll end up in the same situation as before. Keep your cool and don't let her control you.

Meet Other Women Of course the best way to move on after being led on by a girl is to meet and date new women. Just make sure you don't hold any grudges towards women if you've been burned in the past. There's nothing less attractive to a woman than a man who is always suspicious and paranoid.

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